A Big Fight Over Nothing? Don’t Worry; It’s Natural

Do you park yourself for a cup of tea and plan to take a breather with your spouse thinking you both aren’t devoting much time to each other lately and eventually get into a big fight over nothing? Do you curse yourself for taking the initiative to talk and do you want to hit him/her right on the face? Do you hate them for hours to come and do you regret later for being too harsh?

Surprisingly, all these are the signs of a healthy marriage, because if you’re into a real life relationship and not a mutual consent to share a bedroom, it’s natural to get into the ebb and flow of emotions. Call it lack of attention or urge for togetherness; but all it takes is a smile to bring back the charm in the relationship. And there’s sometimes more to it. Contrary to the intimacy draught, sometimes it’s nothing more than eating the same sandwich in the same dressing every day. But that doesn’t at all indicate you need an elaborate menu, but serve the sandwich in a speckled way. Plan outings, play games, quizzes, listen to music and take a walk. After a decade of a wedding and 2 almost grown-up kids, it’s sometimes not only tough to get back to the romantic moods but is also kind of uneasy. But break all the shackles slowly because nothing is more uneasy or embarrassing than not being able to talk to your spouse pleasantly for a while. Don’t let that situation arise.

World Without Woman | Do You Want to Live it?

Many people all over the world believe in a divine creation story where God created man first and then saw that the man was lonely, so he created a woman to accompany him, but the role of women in the world goes much further than simply living for the purpose of being a companion. If you take a second look at this story of creation, you see something much deeper.

Yes, the woman was created after the man to be a partner for him, but the reason she was created in the first place was that the world was not complete without her. If the world could have gone on without woman, then why bother? She was the missing puzzle piece that made man and the world he lived incomplete. She wasn’t created to be like a man because his place in creation had already been filled. The man needed something more than himself in order to be complete. Woman was created to be something entirely different, something unique, special and beautiful.

Whatever your religious beliefs are, you have to admit that a world without women would be a stark and dreary place to live. Think of all the attributes of a woman and then imagine a world without them. Understanding, acceptance, love and care are all things that come to mind.

A world without women would be one without color, without beauty, and without completion.

Just because women have been able to advance higher and higher on the corporate ladder and have gained a certain level of equality under the law doesn’t necessarily mean that women are free to truly express themselves as women. To a certain extent, women are expected to act like men in dresses, defeating their purpose entirely. The workplace is often devoid of any touch of femininity, which could possibly be one reason why so many people dread going to work eight hours a day.

Even though men are physically stronger than women, women offer a different kind of strength that the world would be an incredibly sad place without. Women are always emotionally strong for their friends and loved ones going through a hard time, and have the ability to offer sound advice when it’s most needed. As much as men may try, they simply can’t match this strength on their own.

Women are the givers of life in more than just the sense that the human race could not exist without them. They bring life into maturity by encouraging it to grow and protecting it from harm. They encourage creativity and are a source of inspiration for artistic and non-artistic people alike. They know the world needs love, and the seek love in all their relationships and encourage it to grow in others.

A world without women is a world without true relationships, without deep understanding, without beauty and color, without inspiration and without life itself; the very purpose for which we are all here in the first place.  

What Women Want

Men, gorgeous men! What would we do without them? There’s a different kind of craze we ladies maintain about them. They add spice to our life and make our lives go around. Women love men, this is not Adam teasing (analogue to Eve-Teasing), but it has a scientific reasoning too behind it.

Each woman has her own mental, emotional and physical levels at which she needs men. Women have their own spheres of interests and attractions. This depends on their basic nature and personality. Some like the real cool dudes, while others fall for angry, young men.

 There are so many factors that out reflect the personality of a man. But do guys really wonder, like we woman do, about what woman want in them?

Well, if someone asks me about the frame that fits my man the best, I would fix a spotlight over a few facets –

For that awesome persona, he must possess an attitude. A dumb man is an embarrassment. He must develop a sense of humor and wit or polish it if he has one already. If he doesn’t know something, he shouldn’t behave dumb but must have the art to grab things quickly, acting smart, not foolish.  

He must keep a certain distance from all but his closest circle. It also adds to his air of mystery and that never harmed a man ever!

Nothing alienates a woman faster than a pompous prig. No man can ever be superior to another. A man is always a man, after all!

Man’s involvement in sports and games has always added to their sex appeal. Sporty guys have wit in both their physique and minds. Nothing appeals a woman more than wit; however, if a guy can’t be sharp, he should try being a strong, silent man. Women find it hard to forgive vulgarity.  

If sports aren’t your thing, men with proclivity towards music, painting (or art, in general), traveling, biking, and gadgets are equally in rage and do the best to magnetize women. But you shouldn’t try to catch the fever just to draw women closer, it has been mentioned here just to tell you everything you do adds up to your persona.

Women love guys who love women. A misogynist can never be a crush of a woman. Casanova, the ultimate kiss-and-tell man was famous for his way with women. Women admire him till date. Guys should be feminists (not feminine!) and they should not be coy about it.

The sullen look is out, and a smile catches another. So, smile away all the worries and enter into the world of pleasure. Make everything and everyone appear and feel foolish. Handle furious situations staying cool. Grace under pressure is an individual’s biggest asset.

You should never ever feel threatened by anyone or anything. You must be the strongest man. Or, at least, strong enough to protect your lady!

You must cultivate a classic look. Men look smart and decent in clothes that fit them well and flatten their body line. Pare down to the elegant, clean look. Infuse into your drawers, clean, white or dove grey socks, snowy white hankies and baseball caps. The most essential possessions for a man are- A Classy Watch and A High-Tech Mobile Device (almost a decade back, when this article was actually penned down, the second possession was- ‘a gold-tipped fountain pen’, something that doesn’t really hold any value today!) A man with an organized schedule is a man of admiration. That daily wear hair gel puts down the craze of that special look a woman loves on a big date or special evenings. Keep the hair well-cut and groomed, nails filed short, clean and buffed. Shave away that stubble on the jaw line. Personally speaking, that one-day growth is actually a put-off except on actors and rock stars. Remember- women love cleanliness, no matter how dirty from within they themselves may be.  Search, find and stick to the fragrance that best defines you. Women love recognizing their mate by scents.

No matter how childish you behave or appear, stay cultured enough to handle the relationship. Learn to level with your girl. Look, admire but never touch the forbidden fruit. Honesty has always been the best policy. You shouldn’t deny your relationship history and never ever lie to your woman. The only exception is pointing out her pimple!

Talk more to work your way to a real heart-to-heart relationship. You must take time off to tell her you love her, every so often. Try remarking on her fragrance. Guaranteed to please a woman! You should know how to press all her right buttons and the earth will then move. Go on showering her with the things she loves the most. Appreciate her and tell her when you loved her the most. Give her a chance to improve herself in that way. She’ll surely do it for you. Don’t ever ignore her, whatever you do, no matter how alien your work might be to her. Real man’s best friend is his wife. Woman is always eager to learn what her man knows, does or plays; be it a mere musical instrument!

 A complete man knows the hardest job in the planet- To tackle a woman. He behaves gently with her, all the time. He gives her space. He respects her need for privacy and does not try to live in her pocket. Also, he knows how much space is needed and when, and maintains it well, taking care that the space doesn’t develop into a gap.

Women often compare her love to her father, who she believes, is a successful man in life who dint just do well to up bring the family but has also kept her mom so happy all these years. Definitely, every woman wants her man to be successful in life, along with being always aspiring for more.

Young men, get your priorities right. Don’t bumble along the career path. Plan, strategize, make your smart moves on the chessboard of life and chase your dreams. But always ensure to have a back-up plan from your job or business.

Do not pamper yourself thinking you’re going through a learning phase and you still have time. If you think still have enough time, you probably will never have time. If you’re still in your learning phase, you will perhaps take ages to learn and still won’t be a learned man ever. Start right away, life is too short to hang around.

Then, let’s just talk about male beautification a bit. Anger and aggression are the two jewels of men, but only when channelized into a constructive plan. An angry, young man can be a heartthrob of many, but a violent, short-tempered and fierce guy would be the love of none.

Every person is born with some talent. Search out yours, quick! Still, if you feel you are an exception and you don’t have a gift of God, it’s never too late to acquire a skill. Remember, it is not your altitude, but your attitude that determines your aptitude! 

Finding the difference too difficult?

No two people have ever been alike! Even if they appear identical in case of twins, there are certain traits that can never be same.

In fact, if two people are really undistinguishable, it can never ever be possible for them to live a same life at the same point of time, living together.

Let’s take a glance at the “made for each other” couples. Have you ever thought what really makes them ‘so called’ made for each other? Just assume that two perfectly similar people decide to get married. Yes, obviously they’ll take this decision together as they even think alike but what if they both get tired at the same time? What if they both are fed-up of each other and nobody wants to apologize after a scorching, wrangling session when both of them yelled at each other with same intensity?

Well, of course the sleeping and the eating habits would be a boon to both but what if both of them are bouncy and excited at the same time but nobody wants to sit back and balance out everything?

If both of them be good listeners, who would actually speak? If both be spontaneous and impatient, who would plan the family budget and who would organize things for them?

Think again, in a healthy spouse-spouse relationship, all the strengths and the weaknesses of one complements another’s so perfectly, as if the fingers of one hand meet the grooves of another, leaving no space in between. Remember, no relation can ever be perfect and no couple can ever be made for each other. I may sound weird here, but I feel it’s true that even if you marry the most apt suitor, there is still a possibility that you missed out a better guy. But what really matters is how much content you are with your life partner and how much do you cherish your relationship.

  A Marriage can be forceful, even if it is a love marriage. Sometimes, we get clues in advance that there already are issues that would be tough to be dealt with, still we move on with our decision. And that itself is the essence of a relationship. It’s not also true that for loving someone, you must first like him/her. Loving and liking are two different aspects of a marriage but making a marriage work in the absence of one of these facets is a bigger challenge to be talked about.

Study the basic nature of your partner and analyze him/her under unusual situations. Think and explore various facets of the person and then, act (or decide) accordingly.

Even if you think that you and your spouse aren’t alike and you have no similarity in personality, there still must be appoint where your wavelengths would meet. The more differences you have, sharper it makes the angle with your wavelengths. Come on, you cannot avoid fights and spites. No matter how compatible you may be, but battling in the bedroom is in fact a healthy sign for a couple. When two people live together and share a common space, they would definitely disagree on certain things, may it be the way she arranges his wardrobe for him! Every relationship faces testing times. These are the hard times when you are tried upon and you have to flourish and pass the exam at any cost. A couple of times you handle such situation; it’d soon be either time when you finally both agree to a common point that this is not something you ever wanted in your life, if not, you’d get accustomed to it before long and it’ll hurt no more. Really!

But before you fight, make a few rules and get them set in your spouse’s mind too-

· Never let the sun set upon an argument. Always solve the conflict before going to bed.

· Never take separate blankets until one wants a thin top sheet and the other one finds it a chilly weather!

· If you want to fight, fight! There are so many issues that are not so easily acceptable, better not to let your arguments pull up another fight.

If you are feeling awful or feel the need to talk, go ahead. Avoiding things and crying in private resolves nothing.