Finding the difference too difficult?

No two people have ever been alike! Even if they appear identical in case of twins, there are certain traits that can never be same.

In fact, if two people are really undistinguishable, it can never ever be possible for them to live a same life at the same point of time, living together.

Let’s take a glance at the “made for each other” couples. Have you ever thought what really makes them ‘so called’ made for each other? Just assume that two perfectly similar people decide to get married. Yes, obviously they’ll take this decision together as they even think alike but what if they both get tired at the same time? What if they both are fed-up of each other and nobody wants to apologize after a scorching, wrangling session when both of them yelled at each other with same intensity?

Well, of course the sleeping and the eating habits would be a boon to both but what if both of them are bouncy and excited at the same time but nobody wants to sit back and balance out everything?

If both of them be good listeners, who would actually speak? If both be spontaneous and impatient, who would plan the family budget and who would organize things for them?

Think again, in a healthy spouse-spouse relationship, all the strengths and the weaknesses of one complements another’s so perfectly, as if the fingers of one hand meet the grooves of another, leaving no space in between. Remember, no relation can ever be perfect and no couple can ever be made for each other. I may sound weird here, but I feel it’s true that even if you marry the most apt suitor, there is still a possibility that you missed out a better guy. But what really matters is how much content you are with your life partner and how much do you cherish your relationship.

  A Marriage can be forceful, even if it is a love marriage. Sometimes, we get clues in advance that there already are issues that would be tough to be dealt with, still we move on with our decision. And that itself is the essence of a relationship. It’s not also true that for loving someone, you must first like him/her. Loving and liking are two different aspects of a marriage but making a marriage work in the absence of one of these facets is a bigger challenge to be talked about.

Study the basic nature of your partner and analyze him/her under unusual situations. Think and explore various facets of the person and then, act (or decide) accordingly.

Even if you think that you and your spouse aren’t alike and you have no similarity in personality, there still must be appoint where your wavelengths would meet. The more differences you have, sharper it makes the angle with your wavelengths. Come on, you cannot avoid fights and spites. No matter how compatible you may be, but battling in the bedroom is in fact a healthy sign for a couple. When two people live together and share a common space, they would definitely disagree on certain things, may it be the way she arranges his wardrobe for him! Every relationship faces testing times. These are the hard times when you are tried upon and you have to flourish and pass the exam at any cost. A couple of times you handle such situation; it’d soon be either time when you finally both agree to a common point that this is not something you ever wanted in your life, if not, you’d get accustomed to it before long and it’ll hurt no more. Really!

But before you fight, make a few rules and get them set in your spouse’s mind too-

· Never let the sun set upon an argument. Always solve the conflict before going to bed.

· Never take separate blankets until one wants a thin top sheet and the other one finds it a chilly weather!

· If you want to fight, fight! There are so many issues that are not so easily acceptable, better not to let your arguments pull up another fight.

If you are feeling awful or feel the need to talk, go ahead. Avoiding things and crying in private resolves nothing.