In every fight with our folks, we thought, we’ll never do that to our children. Now the tables have turned. We are their position and making same mistakes that we thought that they made.
You as a kid
Whenever your kid asks for something forbidden by him, just think of yourself as that kid. You’ll probable understand his demands. When you were a kid; you wanted to ride the bicycle to the other side of town. But your mother didn’t let you because she always feared that you might get hurt. Now you are in same dilemma. You know that your kids would hate you for that but can you let them?
What you might do
Now you might tell him not to go there and tell him about the dangers. But if you were a kid would you understand? Probably not, so how could you expect your kid to understand that. So you might forbid him. But this would make you hate your parents if you were a kid. So your child might so that. If this doesn’t work, you will probably scold him or ground him, but seriously reflect back, weather grounding has made you improve or made you more rebellious.
An alternative
Now it’s a situation, how to handle? One alternative could be that you try and postpone the day and that’ll make him a little calm and finally he might forget about the other side, but what if he remembers?
The Second alternative can be to tell him that this is one time thing and make him promise that he will not demand for it again. He will gladly agree. (Wouldn’t you – as a kid?) Then escort him to the other side, Have some fun with him and next time when he asks for same thing. Balls are on your side. He has promised not to do so.
Tell him if he will break the promise, so will you in future.
The Point is- to handle a child; you got to think like a child.
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