Friday, June 21, 2013

A Big Fight Over Nothing? Don’t Worry; It’s Natural

Do you park yourself for a cup of tea and plan to take a breather with your spouse thinking you both aren’t devoting much time to each other lately and eventually get into a big fight over nothing? Do you curse yourself for taking the initiative to talk and do you want to hit him/her right on the face? Do you hate them for hours to come and do you regret later for being too harsh?

Surprisingly, all these are the signs of a healthy marriage, because if you’re into a real life relationship and not a mutual consent to share a bedroom, it’s natural to get into the ebb and flow of emotions. Call it lack of attention or urge for togetherness; but all it takes is a smile to bring back the charm in the relationship. And there’s sometimes more to it. Contrary to the intimacy draught, sometimes it’s nothing more than eating the same sandwich in the same dressing every day. But that doesn’t at all indicate you need an elaborate menu, but serve the sandwich in a speckled way. Plan outings, play games, quizzes, listen to music and take a walk. After a decade of a wedding and 2 almost grown-up kids, it’s sometimes not only tough to get back to the romantic moods but is also kind of uneasy. But break all the shackles slowly because nothing is more uneasy or embarrassing than not being able to talk to your spouse pleasantly for a while. Don’t let that situation arise.



2 comments:

Tricia said...

sometimes me and my husband end up talking divorce after issues like where he kept the baby's soiled diaper. then i later realize there are some husbands who let the baby cry and dont even bother to change the diaper. sometimes we're blessed enough in life, just that we fail to understand!
thanks for your post. quite a reminder it is.

rashmi walia said...

Totally agree on that. Both men and women have critical roles to play in a marriage. The best way is to value the other one.